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Dr. Harriet Lerner

Authority on the Psychology of Women and Families, Author of New York Times Bestseller, "The Dance of Anger"

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Dr. Harriet Lerner Biography

Harriet Lerner was born in Brooklyn, New York, on November 30, 1944. She is the second of two daughters of Rose and Archie Goldhor. Her parents were first-generation Americans, both born to Russian-Jewish immigrant parents. They were high school graduates who held jobs they did for paychecks but avocations that brought them great joy.

Archie worked for the New York State Employment Agency for more than thirty years, but his real love was his shop in the basement of their house. "He could build anything", says Lerner. "He made all of our furniture, along with toys, lamps and jigsaw puzzles. He loved rosewood, classical music, The New York Times, and peace and quiet. He had a peace-at-any-price philosophy, which I did not abide by."

Lerner's mother, Rose, worked in an office, but her passion was art. When she was in her late fifties, she started working for artists she admired; in exchange, she asked for artwork, thus creating an art gallery in her home. Rose, who died recently at the age of 94, left her daughters a wonderful collection of paintings and sculpture and, more important, an enduring love of art and beauty.

Lerner's sister, Susan, five years her senior, is a biologist and researcher in Cambridge, Massachusetts. The two sisters have collaborated in writing award-wining children's books; their first is called What's So Terrible About Swallowing an Apple Seed (HarperCollins). Their latest book Franny B. Kranny, There's A Bird in Your Hair! (HarperCollins)

Growing up, Harriet and Susan often spent weekends at the Brooklyn Botanical Garden, the Brooklyn Public Library and the Brooklyn Museum. "These places were free and just a subway token away."

Lerner's mother had an unwavering belief in her daughters and strong principles about how to raise children. In Harriet's words:

Even during the hardest economic times, Harriet’s mother always ensured her daughters had the things necessary for success, including a therapist. Her mother “thought [therapy] was a learning experience.”

Her mother's belief in therapy undoubtedly contributed to Lerner's career choice. She decided to become a clinical psychologist before finishing kindergarten - a decision she never veered from.

EDUCATION AND CAREER

Lerner attended local public schools in Brooklyn including Midwood High School. She did her undergraduate work at the University of Wisconsin at Madison, where she majored in psychology and Indian studies. She spent her junior year studying and doing research in Delhi, India. Lerner received an M.A. in educational psychology from Teachers' College of Columbia University and a Ph.D. in clinical psychology from the City University of New York. It was there that she met and later married Steve Lerner, also a clinical psychologist. The couple did a pre-doctoral internship at Mt. Zion Hospital in San Francisco and moved to Topeka, Kansas in 1972 for a two-year postdoctoral training program at the Menninger Foundation, where they subsequently joined the staff

"We always planned to move back to Berkeley or New York,” says Lerner. “But two years in Topeka turned into two decades - and then some” She now identifies herself as a Kansan and claims to have overcome her coastal arrogance. She has grown to love the simple life (meaning she has never had to learn to parallel park) and the big open skies. After Menninger closed shop in Topeka and moved to Houston, Lerner and her husband moved to Lawrence, Kansas where they currently have a private practice. They have two sons, Matt and Ben.

Lerner is best known for her work on the psychology of women and family relationships. Feminism and family systems theory continue to inform her writing. She has dedicated her writing life to translating complex theory into accessible and useful prose, an d has become one of our nation most trusted and respected relationship experts.

Lerner's books have been published in more than thirty foreign editions with book sales of over three million. Her “Dance” books include The Dance of Anger The Dance of Intimacy, and The Dance of Deception, The Mother Dance and The Dance of Connection.

Lerner is also the author of Life Preservers: Good Advice When You Need It Most, and Women in Therapy, a feminist revision of psychoanalytic theory and practice

Lerner's latest book (May 2004) is The Dance of Fear: Rising Above Anxiety, Fear and Shame to Be Your Best and Bravest Self.

Speech Topics

Programs include:

• The Dance of Connection - How to talk to someone when you're mad, hurt, etc. • Marriage and Couples - 10 steps to making your relationship work • Mothers and Daughters - the Crucial Connection •The Mother Dance - How Children Change Your Life • Good Advice When You Need It Most Additional Topics: • The Dance of Courage • The Dance of Anger • The Dance of Intimacy • The Dance of Deception • The Dance of Life: New Steps to Remarkable Relationships • Communication and Connection in Key Relationships • Deception, Loss, and Other Unspeakable Subjects • Transforming Key Relationships from Theory to Practice (or Action) • Marriage and Family Relationships • The Challenge of Self-Esteem. • Dealing with Anger in the Workplace. • Special issues for Women. Lectures can be mixed & matched & tailored for a particular group. Lectures can be addressed to both men and women or can be tailored to meet the special interests of an all female audience. 

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Books
Marriage Rules: A Manual for the Married and the Coupled Up

Marriage Rules: A Manual for the Married and the Coupled Up

The Dance of Fear: Rising Above Anxiety, Fear, and Shame to Be Your Best and Bravest Self

The Dance of Fear: Rising Above Anxiety, Fear, and Shame to Be Your Best and Bravest Self

The Dance of Anger: A Woman's Guide to Changing the Patterns of Intimate Relationships

The Dance of Anger: A Woman's Guide to Changing the Patterns of Intimate Relationships

Franny B. Kranny, There's a Bird in Your Hair!

Franny B. Kranny, There's a Bird in Your Hair!

The Dance of Connection: How to Talk to Someone When You're Mad, Hurt, Scared, Frustrated, Insulted, Betrayed, or Desperate

The Dance of Connection: How to Talk to Someone When You're Mad, Hurt, Scared, Frustrated, Insulted, Betrayed, or Desperate

The Mother Dance: How Children Change Your Life

The Mother Dance: How Children Change Your Life

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Authority on the Psychology of Women and Families, Author of New York Times Bestseller, "The Dance of Anger"

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Dr. Harriet Lerner Biography

Harriet Lerner was born in Brooklyn, New York, on November 30, 1944. She is the second of two daughters of Rose and Archie Goldhor. Her parents were first-generation Americans, both born to Russian-Jewish immigrant parents. They were high school graduates who held jobs they did for paychecks but avocations that brought them great joy.

Archie worked for the New York State Employment Agency for more than thirty years, but his real love was his shop in the basement of their house. "He could build anything", says Lerner. "He made all of our furniture, along with toys, lamps and jigsaw puzzles. He loved rosewood, classical music, The New York Times, and peace and quiet. He had a peace-at-any-price philosophy, which I did not abide by."

Lerner's mother, Rose, worked in an office, but her passion was art. When she was in her late fifties, she started working for artists she admired; in exchange, she asked for artwork, thus creating an art gallery in her home. Rose, who died recently at the age of 94, left her daughters a wonderful collection of paintings and sculpture and, more important, an enduring love of art and beauty.

Lerner's sister, Susan, five years her senior, is a biologist and researcher in Cambridge, Massachusetts. The two sisters have collaborated in writing award-wining children's books; their first is called What's So Terrible About Swallowing an Apple Seed (HarperCollins). Their latest book Franny B. Kranny, There's A Bird in Your Hair! (HarperCollins)

Growing up, Harriet and Susan often spent weekends at the Brooklyn Botanical Garden, the Brooklyn Public Library and the Brooklyn Museum. "These places were free and just a subway token away."

Lerner's mother had an unwavering belief in her daughters and strong principles about how to raise children. In Harriet's words:

Even during the hardest economic times, Harriet’s mother always ensured her daughters had the things necessary for success, including a therapist. Her mother “thought [therapy] was a learning experience.”

Her mother's belief in therapy undoubtedly contributed to Lerner's career choice. She decided to become a clinical psychologist before finishing kindergarten - a decision she never veered from.

EDUCATION AND CAREER

Lerner attended local public schools in Brooklyn including Midwood High School. She did her undergraduate work at the University of Wisconsin at Madison, where she majored in psychology and Indian studies. She spent her junior year studying and doing research in Delhi, India. Lerner received an M.A. in educational psychology from Teachers' College of Columbia University and a Ph.D. in clinical psychology from the City University of New York. It was there that she met and later married Steve Lerner, also a clinical psychologist. The couple did a pre-doctoral internship at Mt. Zion Hospital in San Francisco and moved to Topeka, Kansas in 1972 for a two-year postdoctoral training program at the Menninger Foundation, where they subsequently joined the staff

"We always planned to move back to Berkeley or New York,” says Lerner. “But two years in Topeka turned into two decades - and then some” She now identifies herself as a Kansan and claims to have overcome her coastal arrogance. She has grown to love the simple life (meaning she has never had to learn to parallel park) and the big open skies. After Menninger closed shop in Topeka and moved to Houston, Lerner and her husband moved to Lawrence, Kansas where they currently have a private practice. They have two sons, Matt and Ben.

Lerner is best known for her work on the psychology of women and family relationships. Feminism and family systems theory continue to inform her writing. She has dedicated her writing life to translating complex theory into accessible and useful prose, an d has become one of our nation most trusted and respected relationship experts.

Lerner's books have been published in more than thirty foreign editions with book sales of over three million. Her “Dance” books include The Dance of Anger The Dance of Intimacy, and The Dance of Deception, The Mother Dance and The Dance of Connection.

Lerner is also the author of Life Preservers: Good Advice When You Need It Most, and Women in Therapy, a feminist revision of psychoanalytic theory and practice

Lerner's latest book (May 2004) is The Dance of Fear: Rising Above Anxiety, Fear and Shame to Be Your Best and Bravest Self.

Speech Topics

Programs include:

• The Dance of Connection - How to talk to someone when you're mad, hurt, etc. • Marriage and Couples - 10 steps to making your relationship work • Mothers and Daughters - the Crucial Connection •The Mother Dance - How Children Change Your Life • Good Advice When You Need It Most Additional Topics: • The Dance of Courage • The Dance of Anger • The Dance of Intimacy • The Dance of Deception • The Dance of Life: New Steps to Remarkable Relationships • Communication and Connection in Key Relationships • Deception, Loss, and Other Unspeakable Subjects • Transforming Key Relationships from Theory to Practice (or Action) • Marriage and Family Relationships • The Challenge of Self-Esteem. • Dealing with Anger in the Workplace. • Special issues for Women. Lectures can be mixed & matched & tailored for a particular group. Lectures can be addressed to both men and women or can be tailored to meet the special interests of an all female audience. 

Dr. Harriet Lerner Videos

  • Why Won't He Apologize? | Harriet Lerner | TEDxKC
    Harriet Lerner is a clinical psychologist and New York Times Best Selling author who has turned her attention to the subject of apology.
  • Marriage Rules, Harriet Lerner - YouTube

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  • How to book Dr. Harriet Lerner?

    Our booking agents have successfully helped clients around the world secure talent like Dr. Harriet Lerner for both live and virtual events for over 20 years. The team at All American Entertainment represents and listens to the needs of organizations and corporations seeking to hire keynote speakers, celebrities or entertainers for speaking engagements, personal appearances, product endorsements, or corporate entertainment. Fill out a booking request form for Dr. Harriet Lerner, or call our office at 1.800.698.2536 to discuss your upcoming event. One of our experienced agents will be happy to help you get pricing information and check availability for Dr. Harriet Lerner or any other celebrity of your choice.
  • How much does it cost to book Dr. Harriet Lerner?

    Booking fees for Dr. Harriet Lerner, or any other speakers and celebrities, are determined based on a number of factors and may change without notice. Pricing often varies between live and virtual events. Other factors that can affect speaker fees include the talent's schedule, market conditions, length of presentation, and the location of the event. The live and virtual event speaking fees listed on this website are intended to serve as a guideline only. In some cases, the actual quote may be above or below the stated range. For the most current fee to hire Dr. Harriet Lerner, please fill out the booking request form or call our office at 1.800.698.2536 to speak with an experienced booking agent.
  • Who is the agent for Dr. Harriet Lerner?

    All American Entertainment has successfully secured celebrity talent like Dr. Harriet Lerner for clients worldwide for more than 20 years. As a full-service talent booking agency, we have access to virtually any speaker or celebrity in the world. Our agents are happy and able to submit an offer to the speaker or celebrity of your choice, letting you benefit from our reputation and long-standing relationships in the industry. Fill out the booking request form or call our office at 1.800.698.2536, and one of our agents will assist you to book Dr. Harriet Lerner for your next private or corporate function.
  • What is a full-service talent booking agency?

    All American Speakers is a "buyers agent" and exclusively represents talent buyers, meeting planners and event professionals, who are looking to secure celebrities and speakers for personal appearances, speaking engagements, corporate entertainment, public relations campaigns, commercials, or endorsements. We do not exclusively represent Dr. Harriet Lerner or claim ourselves as the exclusive booking agency, business manager, publicist, speakers bureau or management for Dr. Harriet Lerner or any other speaker or celebrity on this website. For more information on how we work and what makes us unique, please read the AAE Advantage.

Dr. Harriet Lerner is a keynote speaker and industry expert who speaks on a wide range of topics . The estimated speaking fee range to book Dr. Harriet Lerner for your event is $10,000 - $20,000. Dr. Harriet Lerner generally travels from KS, USA and can be booked for (private) corporate events, personal appearances, keynote speeches, or other performances. Similar motivational celebrity speakers are Michelle Borkin, Genifer Murray, Christine Clifford, Grant Korgan and Kevin Stone. Contact All American Speakers for ratings, reviews, videos and information on scheduling Dr. Harriet Lerner for an upcoming live or virtual event.

Dr. Harriet Lerner Speaker Videos

  • Why Won't He Apologize? | Harriet Lerner | TEDxKC
    Harriet Lerner is a clinical psychologist and New York Times Best Selling author who has turned her attention to the subject of apology.
    Marriage Rules, Harriet Lerner - YouTube

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