Matthew Fray

Matthew Fray is a relationship coach, writer, and speaker known for his candid, self-reflective analysis of his own marriage and divorce. Fray uses the lessons learned from his personal experiences to help others navigate relationship challenges and avoid common pitfalls that can lead to divorce. During his divorce, Fray began a blog, formerly titled "Must Be This Tall To Ride," as a way to process his feelings and understand the breakdown of his marriage. His writing, which often includes honest and sometimes humorous first-person accounts, quickly gained traction online.

A blog post titled "She Divorced Me Because I Left the Dishes by the Sink" went viral, reaching millions of readers and sparking widespread discussion about relationship dynamics and communication. Fray has authored more than 600 blog posts, many of which have been translated into multiple languages and widely shared.

Fray is the author of "This Is How Your Marriage Ends: A Hopeful Approach to Saving Relationships," published by HarperCollins. In the book, he examines relationship patterns that contribute to divorce, offering insights and practical strategies for couples seeking to strengthen their partnerships. The book serves as a resource for individuals who are dating, married, or divorced and seeking to understand the underlying causes of relationship breakdowns. The New York Times described Fray as "the man who coaches husbands on how to avoid divorce."

Fray's work has been featured in The New York Times, The Atlantic, The Wall Street Journal, The Sunday Times (London), The Tamron Hall Show, On Air with Ryan Seacrest, BBC Radio, and numerous relationship podcasts. His writing has appeared in HuffPost and his blog has reached a global audience. Through his coaching practice, speaking engagements, and Substack newsletter, Fray focuses on relationship education, communication skills, and practical tools to help individuals and couples foster healthier, more resilient relationships.